Women in their 30s and 40s grew up with "Sex And The City". From when it first hit our TV screens here in the UK back in 1999 to the release of the second movie in 2010, fans have watched Carrie and co move on from quick flings to serious relationships to marriage.
I think it would be fair to say that their glamourous lifestyles don't exactly reflect those of the viewers', but that didn't stop us lusting after Louboutins and throwing back cosmopolitans (see HERE for my take on this SATC staple), while hoping that someday we'd find our very own Mr.Big (or Aidan - you choose).
However I found myself relating very strongly to one of the themes in the second movie - that of Big & Carrie's childfree marriage.
The fact that "childfree" has just been underlined in red by my auto-spell checker just goes to show how non-integrated this situation is in today's society. There is a subtle distinction between "childfree" and "childless" (note: childless does not get underlined in red!!) and that is choice. Childfree people have chosen not to be parents and childless people have, sadly, not chosen that particular path.
Before I go any further with this post, and as it is a post which is intended to give you a better picture of me and my vision for this blog, a little bit of background is required here. My husband and I do not have children. We tried for 5 years and it then took us a further 2 years to get over the fact that it wasn't going to happen and then move on with our lives. I'd say for the majority of that time we were a childless couple, but from the point where we decided the stop trying, that we weren't going to adopt and that we were going to consciously enjoy our lives without our own children - we became childfree.
Anyway, back to Carrie. The bits of this movie that really hit home for me all occurred in the first hour and a half (I mean, I love SATC, but it was a bit long!!), initially at the wedding where Carrie has to explain to a fan that her and Big won't be having a baby and that it will be "just us two" and later on when in their hotel room where one side Samantha is noisily getting it in with one of the grooms' brother and on the other where Charlotte's child is making a racket: "There Big and I were - somewhere between wild sex and a baby".
My roaring 20s have passed and I'm happily in a settled relationship but there's no baby. I have pretty much come to terms with this, however it seems as though the mass media is yet to catch up.